The Orders of the Soul

Within a family, there exists a collective soul and conscience governed by three fundamental orders:

1. Equal Right to Belong: The first fundamental order is that every member of the system, whether living or deceased, has an equal right to belong. Moral judgments such as “He is a delinquent”, “He is an alcoholic”, or “She had a child out of wedlock” can lead some to believe they are superior and thus entitled to a greater sense of belonging. However, the soul of the family does not distinguish between good and bad—what is perceived as "bad" is merely the other side of "good". Someone who sees themselves as perfect or significantly better than others can be terrifying. In contrast, embracing one's place among ordinary people brings a sense of peace and acceptance.

2. Restoration of Balance: When a family member’s right to belong is denied, the family soul seeks to restore equilibrium. If someone is excluded, the system often compensates by having a later-born family member unconsciously take on their struggles, embodying their fate to restore balance. These individuals may experience the same pain and difficulties as the excluded member. The resolution lies in honoring those who were cast out—especially those whose exclusion caused distress, such as a woman who died in childbirth. When these individuals are acknowledged and given their rightful place, harmony is restored. The system regains peace, and later-born family members are released from the unconscious burden of carrying their fate.

3. Respect for Precedence: Earlier generations hold precedence over later ones. If this order is disregarded, younger family members may unknowingly sacrifice themselves to restore balance. When previous generations are honored, descendants gain the freedom to live their own lives.

Illness and the Soul

A person’s early experiences shape not only their soul but also their physical health later in life. Events such as early separation from one’s mother or surviving a life-threatening accident can leave lasting imprints. The path to healing involves returning to the place where the soul was wounded—acknowledging it, facing it, and making peace with it. By doing so, one can harmonize with their fate, leading to both emotional and physical healing.

Extracted from “No Waves without the Ocean: Experiences and Thoughts” by Bert Hellinger