Reflections on "The Beginning of Happiness" Course

What is happiness? Happiness is being in harmony with the present moment. In the past, I often sought to understand the mysteries of life during times of hardship and struggle by cross-referencing my own life experiences with the writings of Master Hellinger. A few years ago, while traveling solo abroad, I used the wisdom from his books to visualize my parents and ancestors accompanying me. This brought me peace, making me feel a deep sense of unity with the world and harmony with the universe. When I received the course information last year, I quickly registered, as if declaring the start of a new stage in my life journey. On the day of the class, I arrived with a mix of nervousness and an effort to stay present, paying attention to my surroundings. A profound moment occurred when the first participant stepped onto the stage. I felt a strong pressure in my chest, and as I watched the process unfold, my curiosity grew. I followed the movements of the representatives in the space and listened to the teacher’s calming words. My tears flowed as I saw unfinished emotions from a past relationship. I realized that I often take on responsibilities that aren’t mine and recognized the guilt I felt when I chose to walk away. In that moment of clarity, I returned the responsibilities to the person they belonged to and released my guilt. Then, as I slowly heard the words, "No matter where you are, I will bless you. Goodbye. Goodbye." I felt a deep sense of power to say farewell. In the end, my heart found peace. During the two-day course, I released the desire to present my case on stage after participating in the first constellation. My heart moved from moment to moment, each filled with significance. In one moment, I recognized my connection to and love for my family elders during a group constellation. In another, I gave a place to the child who had been lost in my family. In a pair exercise, I let go of expectations towards my mother and expressed gratitude for her sacrifices for the family. The farewell and turning away, like a ritual, brought happiness and the joy of being fully present. I am grateful to my fellow participants and for the guidance the space provided.

Participant: Ms. You (Social Worker)