A Prayer for Children Lost to Abortion

The arrival of a child in our lives is a rare and precious connection. The deaths of these children should not be in vain. We must learn important lessons from the sacrifices they made and strive to live better lives in the future. This is the greatest way to honor those children who have passed away. There is a method in systemic constellations that you can practice internally, which I call "Inner Constellation". As long as we are able to focus and return to our center, using imagination or self-guidance, it can be just as effective as a constellation involving representatives. Now, I invite you to join me in an Inner Constellation, to pray for the children lost to abortion. If you have experienced abortion, pray for your own children. If not, then pray for any siblings or family members who were lost to abortion, and wish them peace.

Let us rise—rise higher and higher,

To a higher, higher, higher realm.

A place where everyone is loved

and every child is accepted.

As we reach this elevated space,

we look ahead and see

the children in our family who were sadly aborted.

Look at them with love,

whether they were your own children,

your siblings,

or any other unfortunate members of the family.

Look at them with compassion.

They couldn’t survive as we did.

Let us look at them with love,

seeing this group of children,

and say to them:

"Dear children,

I see you now.

We ended your lives,

and we are willing to take responsibility for this act and for the guilt that comes with it.

You are free.

Though your time with this family was brief,

you are still part of us.

In my heart, I give each of you a place.

It’s a pity you couldn't stay with us,

while we lived on

and gained benefits from your passing.

Your sacrifice will not be in vain.

I will live a better, more successful life because of you.

I will share my success, my happiness,

and my inner peace with you.

Please bless me, as well.

If I have my own children,

and if they are fortunate enough to live and thrive,

please watch over them.

Dear children,

I leave my love with you.

Wherever you are,

may you be safe and joyful.”

Now, let your gaze extend further,

beyond these children,

to a higher and more distant place;

the source of life.

Imagine it filled with an immense

golden light, a white light,

full of joy and blessings.

That is the source of life.

We see our children

happily heading towards this source,

returning to the place from which life came,

carrying our blessings as they go.

They return to this golden and white light.

"Dear children, I bless you. Dear children, go in peace."

Wave to them or bow to them,

happily seeing them off

as they merge with the golden and white light;

the light of the infinite source of life.

Then, with a sense of peace

and joy,

we return to the present moment.

After completing this Inner Constellation, we can take the next step by performing acts of kindness for children in need in our society. This, too, is a form of personal growth, as our love finds a channel to flow—toward ourselves, our children, our families, and society as a whole, moving in a direction that brings greater well-being for all.

Extracted from “Love and Reconciliation” by Chou Ting Wen